Love is freedom! Love is not about trying to find love. Love is about letting yourself absolutely free! That is it!
Love is not object based. Love is not about, “I love this person or I love this work or I love this book.” Love is your inner state of mind. Do you know what love is?
I am so joyful that I come across a dog, I pat it! I eat in love. I come across a man, I smile at him. I don’t know him still I am smiling at him. I look at the neighbour and I wish him well. That is love.
It is object independent. First and foremost, love is your internal state of completion. “I am complete within and joyful!” When you are that then that shows up in every relationship.
Remember, every relationship, like the fragrance of a flower.
When a flower blooms, the fragrance spreads in every direction and goes to everybody. The fragrance does not say, “That I will only go to my girlfriend, that I’ll go only to my owner.”
The man who does not have inner joy, will never have a loving relationship. Have joy!
We are so occupied with loving somebody that we forget ourselves. We are so occupied with loving somebody, that we forget ourselves! But love is first and foremost your own inner state. Have so much that you can give to everybody! What? Money? What? Knowledge? Have what? Have that contentment which is everybody’s birthright. Have that contentment which is everybody’s essential nature.
The mind is conditioned, that conditioning is suffering, when that conditioning is dropped, the empty space that you have is called joy. The empty, clear, sacred space that you have is called joy. That joy has the nature of spreading. When that joy spreads to others in your relationship that is called love. So love is about sharing your joy, giving it! But to give it, you must first have it. To have it, you must first be clear of your conditioning. Clear of your opinions, beliefs, goals, targets, such things.